It's not very complicated, but if you're looking for answers, there aren't that many here beyond stop thinking true love is all about rainbows and lollipops. There were passages that I took issue with on a basic level. Does it need to deal specifically with feminism, gender inequality, women, etc. There were definitely some parts where I was able to follow her, mainly in the beginning. She touched on topics that made sense to me.
In patriarchal culture men are especially inclined to see love as something they should receive without expending effort. But to each their own. Does the electronic version of the book completely replace the paper version? I disagree with the idea that women are somewhat weak. I was never sure where she got her facts from, whether from personal experience, from talking to people, from reading the news, from reading research? What would that teach me? In thirteen concise chapters, hooks examines her own search for emotional connection and societys failure to provide a model for learning to love. The word love is most often defined as a noun, yet. It did make me think about the meaning of love and the context of love more widely, yet I still can't agree with some of the principles on which this book is based and the idea that unless love follows certain rules e. About halfway, there is a chapter on divine love.
Celebrated as one of our nations leading public intellectual by The Atlantic Monthly, as well as one of Utne Readers 100 Visionaries Who Could Change Your Life, she is a charismatic speaker who divides her time among teaching, writing, and lecturing around the world. More than our pain, our self-destructive, self-betraying behavior trapped us in the traumas of childhood. I'm sure I'll be returning to hooks's thoughts on love frequently in the future. This is a great book. ? As bell hooks uses her incisive mind and razor-sharp pen to explode th question What is love? I am not a fan of self-help books and this book can be classified somewhere between social criticism and self-help.
And she writes books that could be classified as self-help. While most of the book involved talk of spirituality, once it crossed over into talking about straightforward religion, I started to feel my eyes glazing over. I suggest reading it with a journal nearby because of the constant reflections that come up. Hooks' presentation focused on a lack of love in black society today. If you talk to the wife on a good day, she may also insist that he loves her, despite his violence.
There were places I disagreed with her, and a few distracting generalizations that made me wonder about the research backing her up. I'd have preferred if hooks had stayed away from her wacky, religious concepts, which to me, truly undermine the strong social and pscyhological arguments she makes, but this is a book written from deep experience, and she does not shy away from all the things she believes. We place them in a secondary position, especially in relation to romantic bonds,' p134. The subjectivity was too high in this aspect, even so, all this provocation goes against the love ethic. To give two brief criticisms, because it wasn't actually perfect, and that's important: it's pretty god-heavy. It is a gesture of respect.
This book is an attempt to find it again. I learned a lot from bell hooks about choosing love, about re-vitalizing our dedication to honesty, accountability, and hope. For readers who have found ongoing delight and wisdom in bell hooks's life and work, and for those who are just now discovering her, All About Love is essential reading and a brilliant book that will change how we think about love, our culture-and one another. Shout us out on Facebook. It was all downhill from there, though. Here, hooks, one of our most acute social critics, takes the themes that put her on the map - the relationship between love and sexuality, and the interconnectedness between the public and the private - and challenges the prevailing notion that romantic love is more important than all other bonds.
I don't think she necessarily expects people to hold hands and sing Kumbayah all day long - she understands that with love comes work, hard work, it doesn't come easily. Love, by definition, may never include abuse. This book struck me as having the same vibe as by Caitlin Moran, but not so trans-exclusive. I especially liked the bits about abuse and love being unable to co-exist, as well as hooks' thoughts on how toxic masculinity influences relationships. Love and abuse cannot coexist. She is expected to philosophize in a way that is relatable to anyone, to a diverse audience, which is what I have identified as at the root of many criticisms I've read of this volume. She recognizes that most people think a loving workplace is a thing of myths, but I do believe it can exist, but that so many people are wrapped up in gossip and not showing their true selves, so it's next to impossible for any love to grow out of that.
All About Love offers radical new ways to think about love by showing its interconnectedness in our private and public lives. I have a new understanding about myself, relationships platonic, familial, and romantic , as well as life. I did disagree with hooks's analysis a few times e. This is a good one, especially if you love! As a recovering codependent who has spent many years steadily improving in therapy, I have come to realize that there are definitely some boundaries that individuals have every right to set for themselves and the interactions they have with others, even if those boundaries render the true openness hooks advocates for to be somewhat compromised. She of course, continu I really thoroughly enjoyed the book. Though I gave this book three stars, it was a very important read for me. Stop reading when she starts talking about angels.